Monday, October 1, 2012

National Anti-Bullying Prevention Awareness Month - Bye, Bye Blogging


This is the first initial post of Anti-Bullying week. A friend gave me a link and said I should check it out. I did and didn't like what I saw. Since then I have been in contact with the blog owner and have been given permission for Jodie and I to republish their last post.

*This is copied directly from: Bye, Bye Blogging - Hippies, Beauties and Books OH MY!

Hello Readers,

Jon and I created a post a few weeks ago about us taking a break from blogging, or at least slowing down extensively.

For the past several weeks we have been bombarded with rude, vile and offensive comments being left on our blog in the comments section of our posts and in our emails. We've done our best to ignore and delete as much as possible, but we can (or rather I can) only handle so much negativity. This is a problem that has grown steadily worse and since I started blogging over a year ago. To be honest, I'm not sure what brought all of this to us. We are generous, nice people who genuinely care about others. We aren't sure if this is stemming from THE SITE THAT SHALL NOT BE NAMED, the fiasco with self-published author Carrol Bryant, or if people just decided to make us their next target.

Something occurred this week that was an eye-opener. A young girl we knew decided that she would rather die then go to school and be bullied. She was also tormented relentlessly on the Internet. A few days ago, her mother found her passed out unresponsive. She tried to hang herself using a belt around her neck. They had hopes she would pull through when she was rushed to the hospital, but she died yesterday morning.

She was only 11 years old.

When we do things on the Internet, some of us forget that there are ACTUAL PEOPLE on the other end of the conversation, blog, or whatever. When you type in a hateful message and click the send button, it goes to a real person with real feelings. It doesn't matter who you are, it's going to hurt.

I was bullied relentlessly in school. I refuse to be bullied when I go online. The blogging world has become something toxic that I don't want to associate with anymore. Between all of the butthurt authors complaining about bad reviews, the jealousy that flies around, that wacky site that can't figure out what real bullying is from a hole in the ground, people being stalked at their homes, rabid fans attacking reviewers, and all of the other crazy things I have witnessed (especially over the past few months), I feel like I'm living in a fucking soap opera. The drama is too high and the pay out is too low. It sometimes feels like almost everyone is competing with each other to see who is the biggest bitch and I'm all out of Drama Queen awards.

Jon and I have decided we are shutting down our blog for good. This will be our last post. At this time, we feel as if we can serve our community better without all of the drama and without waking up each day with people belittling the things that we do. The stress is not worth it anymore.

We'd like to thank everyone who has loved our blog and all of our friends and followers we have come to know this past year.

To everyone else, be kind and aware of what you say to others.

-Amanda & Jon

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WHY? I don't have any other words. How can people be so cruel? She goes on to tell me more...

"I've had more than my fair share of nasty people. When I was a kid, I was bullied horribly. I would walk home from school and I would have kids throw rocks at my head. My grandmother bought me a faux fur coat when I was in first grade and the name Hairball stuck with me all through school. Kids are, excuse my french, fucking cruel, and the crap didn't calm down until I finally snapped and beat up a boy when I was in 6th grade. My mother always told me to just ignore them, but ignoring the problem doesn't make it go away.

When all of the stuff started to happen with my blog and then continued to get worse, it just brought me back to those times. Then this little girl killed herself and all I could think about was how close I had been to doing the same thing. At just eleven years old, that is much too young to loose your faith in humanity."
-Amanda

 
More information here - 8.24.12
Rest In Peace Jasmyn Smith
 
I think Amanda is right in saying "be kind and aware of what you say to others."